When it comes to expressing emotions, we humans, men or women, both are overflowing with it. But since women are seen to be more sensitive and vulnerable than men, its acceptable for them to display their emotions. But on the flip side, men are seen to be stronger and discouraged to do the same. But why? Men are just as emotional as women.
Men who are free to express their emotions are perceived to be too weak or termed “Not Man Enough” and this is a thing which has been prevailing in the society for eons. This however can be very toxic and detrimental for men’s metal wellbeing. Everyone needs to express and vent out their emotions and the one who suppress are the ones who suffer the most.
We all are designed to smile when happy and cry when sad. But what happens when you suppress the natural flow of emotions? Mental health disorder to begin with, which can culminate into depression and anxiety and for some even lead to taking drastic steps like suicide.
How can men be more open to with their emotions?
From childhood boys have been told to “not cry like a girl” or “Be a man, men don’t cry”. It has been imbibed in them to suppress their emotions when they really want to burst into tears and let their felling known.
So, to begin with, STOP saying “Boys don’t cry” or “Don’t be a Girl” to your son when he cries. From an early age, when you break the fake wall of discrimination, life growing up as a man will be easy and stress-free.
Allow men to express and be vulnerable about their emotions. Don’t judge them for crying. Men however have their own ways of expressing and dealing with grief and pain. Give them the room to express their emotions however they feel right. Some find solace in being the company of their pet, some like to deal with it by reading books. Others may choose to cook, exercise, or take break from their mundane life and go away for a while.
The other way to deal with emotions and feelings is to see a therapist. It’s not always easy for men to walk up to a therapist. But it can be the idle thing to do if he finds it difficult to speak to anyone else. This is because here they have the platform to open up without being judged. This also helps in dealing with their emotions and cope with them in a more productive way. Invariably it averts a small issue from turning into a grave mental health issues like depression, trauma, anxiety, or substance abuse.
Just like women, men should also be allowed to express their emotions, especially the negatives ones openly. Shunning away the feelings is not the right thing to do. There may be a fear of chaos which comes with emotions. While the heart my want to express, the mind may have its own ego to suppress. But with practice, men can normalize the experience. It could be uncomfortable and tough to begin with but healthy and beneficial.
I have also written about “Foods that help relieve stress”. Read the article here.
This blog is a part of Blogchatter’s #causeachatter issue where I chose to talk about gender equality.