As Aaryaveer has entered his 3rdyear in August, I have been noticing some changes in his personality. He has always been a self-indulged child who keeps himself busy and that’s the best thing about him. But if you ask him to do something else in between like call him for eating or for a shower or go to bed, he gets angry and annoyed. He would in return refuse to listen to what I have to say or cry his way out. So in the end, I have to give in to him and allow him to finish what he is doing at that time.
So while I use to get annoyed with this earlier as he would not come when I call him or listen to me when he is busy, I made a change in my approach to deal with this.
Firstly, I stopped being angry as he is already annoyed and If I too get angry, we are going nowhere with it.
I started giving him time. Time to finish what he is doing and come to me.
If I don’t have that much time to wait, I go to him and try and get my work done without moving him. Eg. Feeding him while he is playing and not waiting for him to come to the dinner table for his meals.
The major thing I make sure now is, when I need him, I keep him off distractions like toys, tv or puzzles. So during his meal, study or bath time, I make sure all distractions are kept away and he is free to listen to me and come to me.
Let me know in the comments as to how do you deal with your childs tantrums and temper issues. Would love to read your views and also get some new ideas.
14 replies on “Raising a child with a mind of his own…”
That is a sound approach to parenting. I feel we must adapt to our children in order for smooth functioning of our routines!
This phase is amazing. Wondering how amazing the conversation would go between you two. He is son of strong headed and confident Mumma. It clearly is visible in him. Don’t worry too much. He will mallow down and you both will surely get to a happily ever after.
Yeah now a days we give them the liberty to think for themselves while also making sure to show them the right way. Awesome write up.
Nice write up, truly handling in this phase in little difficult but from the parenting stage, we learn so much in our life, like how to calm our self and control the situation with our kids.
It’s not easy to raise kids. They could be demanding if we didn’t take care from the very intimate years. Keeping patience definitely helps.
Agreed, a children needs a exposure and environment where they can express themselves
Obviously kids need that liberty to explore and think themselves, given the right way by parents. Couldn’t agree more with your post.
BTW, that is a very handsome young man you are raising.
We don’t have kids at home but I can say that you tactics is really good! Keeping distractions away will help for sure!
The blog title is intriguing. Lovely read. Gone are the days when you treat kids like kids. You can’t not take them seriously. I think the key to good parenting is to listen to the kids.
Awww. He is so cute.
I dont mind having tantrums from such cute kids 😉
Raising kids is not easy and every kid goes through tantrums or mood changes. My nephew is stubborn too and he gets his wishes fulfilled every time.
Raising children requires so much patience and understanding. You are doing a great job and inspiring others too.
Love the read
Thanks a lot 🤗